not six of us, no i’m not expecting twins again, but six months of this new life we have started.
it feels just like the beginnning, it feels like it has never been any different than this.
the 6th month is indeed an exciting one, it has blown me away the amount of things happening in 30 days of the lives of such tiny people. m. and f. have grown up so much, not in height, not in weight, thankfully, but in abilities. smiles stopped being innocent and silent, they have become laughs, with loud giggles. giggles that i thought would come much later but that surprised me one late afternoon when tickling them and m. started making a sound i didn’t recognize to hear it again from f. and realizing “my kids giggle” while alone in the house with them. being a mommy is wonderful but to be the first to hear their giggles is something out of this world! i remember my mother always showing me a picture of my first laugh, and one of her friends is next to me, so she was always “the one who you laughed to for the first time” and now i’m always going to be, even if they hate me when they’re 16, the one that heard them giggle first. and funny enough i giggled with them, except i had also tears coming down from my proud eyes, it was very emotional to hear it from both of them at the same time.
of course i don’t cry all the time they do something new, like for example eating!! they have started their long way into discovering food, and believe me, i’m very picky when it comes to food, or at least used to be very picky, since i met him i have changed my diet, not so much in taking things out of it, but introducing ingredients to my stomach, palat and life… such as… vegetables!!! things like: carrots, pumpkin, potatoes, sweet-potatoes, green beans, brocoli, cauli-flower, zucchini, apple, pear, banana, papaya have become my boy’s favorite things, ok so potatoes didn’t really go that well, they hated it really, and i don’t blame them, all the rest is so sweet why would they?! i didn’t mind because i’ve heard horrible stories of kids that don’t eat anything and i really was a bit worried to think that i could have one of those… worst, two of those! but my babies are his’ kids and that could mean only one thing, they’ll eat anything!!!! and love meal time, seating on their little green chairs, which everyone loves, and sit on the dining table looking out onto the tree tops with birds singing (it’s funny to see them follow the birds not looking at the food, but cry when the spoon takes too long…) it’s been a treat to watch them experience new things everyday. it’s even a good exercise for me, because seriously i can’t pretend too well that brocoli is a tasty thing, so i sing-along and say things like “yummy brocoli, a little green tree that tastes sooooo good!” and they smile and i think how silly must i look when i absolutely hate brocoli. anyway… i know it’s good for them so i’ll keep pretending.
what else… f. likes to always have his feet on the ground standing up whenever he can, thinking he can do it on his own, but no! m. discovered he has a voice, a boys’ voice, and talks all the time, yells even and gets confused when we speak to him in his own language.
they discovered their feet and even though haven’t started eating them, love playing and rolling sideways and even turning themselves off the turtle (the turtle being a great sponge play mat offered by Rita and Hugo that has become a center piece in our living room since we arrived with m. and f.), sometimes hearing a little cry, sometimes getting just smiles and we hope they really don’t fall off of it… it’s 7cm high…
nothing is really boring with these two. they were also treated to the grandparent’s visit for two weeks and with them a twin stroller arrived and it’s been a great thing, if it’s good weather and have nothing to do, i pack their milk, their lunch, their diapers inside the stroller and off we go, direction? everywhere! as long as we can sit somewhere and feed them i’m ok with anything, they love looking around, having toys in it with them aaaand it takes them about 20m to fall sleep. perfect for a mommy that has regained her coffee out addiction!!!
so as you see it’s been a full month, between new abilities, grandparents that taught them how to fall asleep by themselves (thank you mom and dad!), dummies that no longer stay attached to their mouths 24/7 seeing that now they take it off if they’re not sleepy, fingers in mouths when they need a cuddle, diaper sizes that change, toys that all of a sudden seem too babyish for them, utensils for eating that i hadn’t thought of and can’t find here so had them sent with the parents, a stroller that makes all the times they cried with the little car seats unbearable worth it, the heat that let’s us take them to the Indian Ocean and watch them look at the little waves and smile but cry when i dip their tiny toes in it, seeing them feel ticklish with their feet in the sand, watching them learn how to sit straight and lift their hands to their lips just two cms and fall sideways with no support, breastfeeding them still (to those who ever thought i could never do this… it’s been almost 7 months of good mommy milk, very proud of myself too!) and all those other little details that they put into my life, i could keep going forever, i hope to register them all in my mind, if not in photos and videos, but that will keep me company for a very long time.
and just to finish off, twins really to share things differently, they complete each other and they know the other is always there. until now we haven’t seen any jeaulousy scenes, no baby gets upset if the other gets something, they are more and more aware that they are two and that mommy and daddy cannot be with just one all the time. we try our best to play with both so that they can also learn to play together but sometimes we realize with been with one for too long and feel the need, and miss the other. that is not because we’re doing something wrong but it’s because all this twin business can be an overload of feelings. it takes time, but it’s been though a rollercoaster and mighty fun one and a rewarding up hill. they are developing differences in their characters and soon i’m sure we’ll be able to answer everyone’s important and annoying question “who cries the most”, poeple actually seem sad when i say that they almost never cry for no reason at all, and if that wasn’t enough of a dissapointment they seem almost strangely surprised when they see how calm, and smiley and friendly they are. this is my special reward for all that good milk and all those 5 month of breastfeeding continuously, they are beautiful and the most friendly babies ever and even though they have only starting sleeping all night in their 6th month, i know that whatever we did, helped them feel safe, secure, happy and healthy.
to you my boys, thank you for these wonderful 6months, dreams do come true, sometimes twice as much!
p.s.: just so this blog doens’t become a baby blog… too late… we moved! yes we moved from the mithical Rua do Sol to Argelia… closer to good coffee, walking distande from the parks, friends right around the corner and lots and lots of sunshine coming in from my little breakfast room! it’s a blissful life sometimes… ah sure, it’s 36º almost everyday for those stuck up there in the winter.